Rebecca Little & Colleen Long are writers and lifelong friends. We met in 4th grade and have always had a lot in common—we’re both journalists, we both have last names that are size adjectives, and unfortunately, we have both lost babies past 20 weeks of pregnancy.

In the years that followed our losses, we came to rely on each other as the sounding board who didn’t back away with wide eyes when one of us said something sad or angry or bluntly macabre. We started to wonder how our experiences—so different and yet somehow the same—fit into the larger context of pregnancy. Why is America so bad at this? We realized other people were also probably starved for those answers.

So we teamed up to write I’m Sorry for My Loss, a reporting-driven look at pregnancies that don’t end with a baby in the car seat, and why we don’t talk much about them.

Our upcoming book, to be published by Sourcebooks in September 2024, explores every aspect of these misunderstood experiences—ectopic pregnancies, miscarriages, stillbirths, and pregnancies terminated for medical reasons. We will be your guides through the devastating, infuriating, under-researched and inequitable world of pregnancy loss. The history, sociology, marketing, linguistics, medicine, mourning, and reproductive justice that saturate these experiences, and the politics that are shoddily laid over biology.

This book is the culmination of two years of research, seven years of discussion (and 30+ years of friendship.)